I’M ACTUALLY A REALLY NICE PERSON IM JUST USED TO BEING WALKED ALL OVER AND DISRESPECTED SO SOMETIMES I COME OFF AS MEAN BUT I JUST CANT LET PEOPLE TAKE ADVANTAGE OF ME AND I HAD TO GROW UP REALLY FAST OK BUT I PROMISE I HAVE A GOOD HEART AND GOOD INTENTIONS AND I DONT WANT TO EVER HURT PEOPLE’S FEELINGS BUT SOMETIMES I JSUT HAVE TO HAVE THE UPPER HAND AND MAKE SURE I DONT GET HURT IM SORR YI LOVE EVERYONE
SOMEBODY FUCKING SAID IT
Our boy has awful taste in men.
I have in my profile that I love several different sports. While I sometimes get some “prove-it” style messages, usually the guys who message me are just excited to talk about sports. For a while I thought this was odd, but I think it speaks to a very specific kind of misogyny within nerd culture.
Guys who believe in Fake Nerd Girls have convinced themselves that the reason they haven’t done well in the past with women is because women don’t enjoy the things they enjoy. That women can’t like those things. Because the problem couldn’t possibly be that they are unkind, uninteresting, a creep, or any number of other things. To them, the problem is that women don’t understand them. Any threat to their belief that women are incapable of understanding them isn’t just an ego blow, it’s a threat to the way they’ve structured their self esteem and self worth.
Honestly, any guy who asks you to prove your knowledge doesn’t deserve your time of day. I know lots of great guys who are into nerd culture. Not a single one of them would ask you to prove yourself. They’d ask you about your interests and start a conversation. You don’t need to prove yourself to anyone, and no one who wants you to prove yourself deserves your time.